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One thing that I am trying to beat is blowing my load to quickly with or without a condom when going HAM. I want to be able to at least go for a solid minute so I can bring women to orgasm(and feel good about myself as a result) Does the sex god method have a section on this? You can train yourself with mastrubation - and girl with the "stop-start technique".  Every time you mastrubate, you do it untiil you -almost- come. Then relax a few minuttes to the pressure is taking off. Continue wanking, untill you -almost- come.

This start stop start technique will train you to last longer and longer, gradually. samme principple apply when banging a girl, just pull out before the pressure gets too intense, wait, and continue.  Another thing is that if you are circumzised - you will last longer, because your tip of your penins will be agains your jeans, without any soft protection (skin) this makes the head hardned/tougher/less sensitiv. -> last longer. Learn how you can boost your stamina with Magna RX supplements.

I've done it that way for 1 year, 8 months now and its trained me well. BUT - after all that, I've reframed it like this to remove the care: Make them cum with your fingers first, tease and make this real slow and orgasmic for them. Get in there, and just go at it however you want. Even if you last for half a minute. (take is slowly with your strokes and build up to a jackhammering if your worried - you've been in there for 5+ minutes, when really its the 30 seconds of all out that made you cum. so 5 minutes 30 seconds if that kind of thing bothers you...) But i digress... Even if you finish in 30 seconds, its giving them the pleasure of knowing you've enjoyed yourself as well (Its sex, they want to make you cum just as much as you want to make them) Laugh, get another drink, have a smoke, whatever, then come back in 15 minutes when your erect but basically numb to any sensitive feeling. You can go to town for as long as you want then. Learn more at http://www.jasminedirectory.com/health-fitness/men/detail,1996559697,solenoidrocks.html

Give THEM the satisfaction of satisfying you. The only drawback however is that I have to focus really hard on it and I'm guessing it's a little bland for the girl tho.... And I'm definitely going to do that from now on. I always feel bad if I don't make them cum at least once....You will learn how to deal with the breathing without actively thinking about it eventually.

You can always go down on her first, that should even it out a bit for you. And her going down on you first tends to make it easier to last longer too. Not sure about the long term fix but I've always had a go to method which works without fail. I got two actually. Learn more at https://blogs.botw.org/Health/Reproductive_Health/

1) Wank 24 hours before planned sez, and take cialis. Viagra and cialis are great for not blowing the load

2) Take GHB or GBL. Not only will it turn you into a sexual beast, but you I find it damn near impossible to cum on it. Again goes really well with cialis/Viagra, Again not a long term fix, but both methods work amazing. I use it first three times I sex up a new girl and on special occasions.

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Turning clitoral stimulation into an internal orgasm

Being able to stop yourself from experiencing a peak clitoral orgasm is the first step to cultivating a deeper and more internal orgasm. Once you can do that, you can use a variety of techniques to spread your sexual energy to other parts of your body and increase the pleasure sensations inside your vagina. Learn more at http://www.yuanct.com/black-out-when-an-orgasm-is-so-intense/

Let’s look at a few techniques you can try now:

The pause – Every few minutes during stimulation, pause completely. Relax your breathing and your body and stop any movement. Allow your arousal to decrease before continuing. This is a powerful technique that you can use while self-pleasuring, having foreplay, having sex or any other activity. It increases your awareness and moves you from ‘doing’ pleasure to ‘being present’ with pleasure.

Finger tracing – Move your fingers from your clitoris and down into your vagina. Curl your finger upwards, towards your pubic bone and press there. Repeat this movement. It moves the pleasure and sexual energy away from your clitoris and into your vagina, bringing awareness, sensation and pleasure. It’s a great way to awaken and activate your G-spot and it also creates a new neurological pathway between this area and your clitoris.

Internal stimulation – One of the best ways to move sexual energy into your vagina is by applying internal stimulation. You can do this with a dildo or, if you don’t have one, consider a penis-shaped vegetable. Try applying both clitoral and internal stimulation at the same time, while keeping your focus inside your vagina. Gradually, apply more internal stimulation and less external stimulation, until you are hardly touching your clit at all and you can feel the pleasure increasing internally.

Internal awareness – Focus your awareness inside your vagina. Be aware of any warmth, tingling, vibrating, pulsating, throbbing or any other sensation, even if it’s numbness. Do this continuously, and specifically when you use ‘The pause.’

Breath and sound – Keep breathing fully into your belly, focusing on your exhale and making a long ‘Ahhhh’ sound as you breathe out.

Movement – It’s also important to allow your whole body to move, twist and undulate. In particular, allow your hips to undulate back and forth, side to side and in circles. Let this movement expand to your spine, shoulders, head and your entire body. This builds sexual energy and pleasure and also allows the sexual energy to spread into your entire body.

Spread it – Keep caressing your entire body and consciously move your hands away from your genital area and towards other parts of your body, specifically your upper body. Imagine that you are spreading and moving your sexual energy – as if it’s a lump of butter that you are spreading over toast.

Touch – Explore different kinds of touch all over your body – caress, pull, squeeze, twist, pinch, press, stroke, fondle, brush, knead, massage and slap. Experiment with different sensations – you might be surprised at what feels good! Learn about how to increase semen loads

Visualization – Visualize a stream of light, heat, electricity or energy following the path that your finger traces from your clitoris into your vagina (see ‘Finger tracing’). And beyond the vaginal orgasm, you can also visualize this energy travelling up your spine and emanating from the top of your head. This leads to another type of orgasm that we’ll be looking at later.

Squeeze – While stimulating your clit or during the pauses, contract and relax your vaginal muscles in rhythmic repetitions. This brings awareness and sensation into your vagina, and helps you move the sexual energy up your spine. Experiment with different kinds of squeezes – short, long, pulling in, squeezing tightly and even pushing out.

Some women habitually ‘push out’ their vaginal muscles, which causes an explosive orgasm or just a loss of sexual energy. If your clit becomes hypersensitive, it might mean that you had an explosive orgasm. Some level of alternate pushing out and pulling in is pleasurable and beneficial; it’s just important that you do not push out too much and lose your orgasm in this way.

Affirmations – Affirm your orgasmic power to yourself. Say, either out loud or internally, something like, ‘My sexual energy is flowing into my vagina’ or ‘My whole body is orgasmic.’ Consider writing your affirmation down and placing it where you will see it often, such as on your laptop, mirror or fridge.

I encourage you to give some of these techniques a try. Experiment for a few weeks and record your experience in your orgasmic diary. Discuss your experience with female friends who have internal orgasms and know the difference. And don’t worry if you occasionally explode into a clitoral orgasm. Just build your pleasure again and keep going.



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There are also ways that your partner can support you in this practice. Check out the resources section of my website for more detail.
You might be used to having quick and easy clitoral orgasms, and maybe you once believed that’s all there was. But after a few days or, at most, weeks of practice, you will be able to receive more and more clitoral stimulation and be able to transform it into prolonged internal or whole-body orgasms.

Try to practice this for at least thirty minutes every day, where you are stimulated but don’t reach a clitoral orgasm, either by yourself or with your lover. The idea is to build up enough energy that it starts emanating throughout your whole body and, later, into your life. This will be the best homework you ever get! Learn more at http://www.hanko9.com/yet-there-was-the-australian-study-on-vigrx-plus/

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Reconnecting with yourself

Now that we know a bit about orgasms, it’s time to go deeper. It’s time to meet the most important person on your orgasmic journey – you.

In this section of the book, you will reconnect with yourself – your yoni, your juices, your pleasure and your body. You will discover why pleasuring yourself is so important to your orgasmic journey and new ways to do this. You will experience your yoni in new ways and see that connecting to her allows you to embrace your femininity. Importantly, you will be invited to accept yourself as you are and also to allow yourself to change and grow, like a flower.

Self-reflection: How deeply do you love and accept your body?

Self-love and acceptance are important on your orgasmic journey. And it’s not just accepting your sexuality and your sexual organs, you need to love and accept your whole body. To say ‘yes’ to being orgasmic, you first need to say ‘yes’ to yourself.

Your attitude towards your body affects how much you enjoy sex and how much others will be attracted to you. If you don’t like your own body and radiate that energy, how can you expect others to love it for you? They pick up on how well you accept yourself and take the lead from you.

I have seen women who are overweight and would not be considered particularly attractive by modern standards. But when these women have loved, adored and cherished their own bodies, it has made them attractive in the eyes of the people around them. I have had a few lovers like this and it is a pleasure and an honor to be with someone who is confident in their body, regardless of what the sought-after norm might be.

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Marilyn Monroe is considered to be one of the biggest sex symbols in history. However, if you analyze her face according to common standards of female beauty, you will find that it was asymmetric and slightly disproportionate. There were many Hollywood actresses who were more ‘beautiful’ than Marilyn. But her charisma and sensuality made her a legendary beauty.

On the other hand, there are the women who are very beautiful according to modern standards. Yet, often, when I encounter these women, they don’t really like their own body and keep finding (and voicing) perceived faults. As a result, men who would normally be attracted to them because of their good looks get turned off because their beauty is like a shell that holds an unattractive woman inside. Their lack of self-acceptance affects the people around them.

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Today, weight is one of the biggest issues women struggle with when it comes to self-acceptance. In western society, obesity is an epidemic and is not a healthy state for your body. On the other hand, modern standards of beauty depicted through fashion, advertisements and celebrities promote much thinner body weights than a normal healthy weight. As a result, women grow up and live with impossible standards of beauty, which has led to more teenagers and young women developing eating disorders than ever before.

Being too overweight can affect your orgasmic ability because your health is affected. And aiming to be super thin can also affect you because being underweight can rob you of some of your orgasmic ability. However, it’s not just about weight. Learn more at http://www.thewebsiteshack.com/cervical-orgasm-is-experienced/

It’s about all aspects of female beauty. The fashion industry used to spend hours and hours on make-up and hairstyling to improve the looks of the models and hide their many human imperfections. But now, in addition to all of that, photo-editing software is used to manipulate women’s features even further. The final photo used in the media more often than not looks very different to the woman who posed in front of the camera. And it’s not just skin blemishes that are digitally erased; entire body proportions are being reshaped. These photos present ideals of beauty that are unrealistic and cause a distortion in our collective perception of beauty.

You are probably already aware of this. Yet, in spite of your awareness, you are probably still affected by these unnatural and impossible depictions of female beauty. Perhaps you still judge yourself for not looking like those images. So, what is your attitude towards your body? Are you comfortable in a bikini on the beach? Are you comfortable being naked? Do you prefer to turn off the lights when you’re having sex? Do you love your body?

Look at yourself naked in the mirror and find all the things that you do love about your body. There will always be things that you don’t like, so focus on the things that you do like. Aim for a healthy weight rather than the ‘ideal’ body based on unrealistic images in the media. If you want to support your orgasmic journey, you need to accept and love your body. And one way you can express your love and acceptance is to gift yourself with regular self-pleasure.

Pleasure yourself

I said earlier that there is no one secret to great sex because there are many secrets. But if I had to choose the most powerful one, this is it. Obviously, we’re talking about masturbation here. But even the word masturbation can have negative connotations for some. It might be regarded as something that you do when you don’t have a partner or if your partner doesn’t satisfy you. In particular, women masturbate less often than men and are less likely to admit to doing it.

Self-reflection: How comfortable are you with touching yourself? How often do you do it?

Masturbation is the most basic and natural sexual behavior. Even fetuses in the womb have been shown to pleasure themselves in this way. Perhaps you have noticed how often kids touch their genitals or rub themselves on pillows, furniture or toys? It’s completely normal. However, it’s very common for parents who witness a young boy or girl masturbating to either reproach them or punish them. Even if the parent doesn’t say anything, their energy changes and children are very perceptive to these shifts. So they start believing that they have done something ‘wrong.’

When adults react towards a young one’s masturbation with these attitudes, they lay the first foundations of guilt and shame around masturbation. This also extends to body image, sexuality and one’s feminine or masculine essence.

I’ve worked with many women experiencing sexuality issues and I’ve noticed a few common things:

Some women have guilt and shame around masturbation and aren’t comfortable doing it.

Other women don’t take full pleasure in their masturbation. Or they only do it in a mechanical and superficial way, perhaps as a quick fix or a sleeping aid.

Many women are overly focused on clitoral stimulation, missing out on the vast range of experiences, sensations and orgasmic states possible for them.

And some women get attached or addicted to their vibrator. This can cause their yonis to become desensitized or numb, and even make it difficult to experience pleasure with a partner because no man can produce the same stimulation that a vibrator does.

Maybe you have some of these tendencies or experience some shame or inhibition around masturbation as well.

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Imagine, for a moment, going to visit someone’s house for the very first time. You want to be shown around by them and introduced to the environment. But they aren’t really sure where each room is or where the light switches are or how to operate the heating or cooling. They keep stumbling into things and don’t seem comfortable within their own home. How do you think it feels to be a visitor in their home? Learn more at http://www.scspublications.net/try-out-vigrx-plus/

Now, imagine your body is a house, mansion or temple, if you like. When you invite someone in, do you know your body-temple well enough to guide others through it? Are you able to show them how to engage with your home?

I’m sure you’ve experienced a lover who doesn’t know what they’re doing or doesn’t know how to touch and pleasure you. Maybe they touch you too harshly or too softly or reach for your yoni too early. Even worse, have you been with someone who is not present and connected with you? But it’s not just about your visitor. They usually learn how to be in your environment based on how you are in your environment and how you guide them. So the better question is, do you know how to touch and pleasure yourself in the way you want to be touched and pleasured?

The secret to great sex is learning how to have great sex with yourself!

There are so many ways of masturbating and so many reasons to, including:

You become more connected with your body, your yoni, your femininity and your sexuality.

You can experience different kinds of pleasure and orgasm states.

You can discover and awaken more erogenous zones in your body.

You can heal yourself from pain and trauma.

You become independent and empowered in your sexuality, not needing someone else to fix, pleasure or fulfill you.

You can find the inner union of masculine and feminine energies with your self-empowering and self-affirming practice.

You can raise your sexual resonance and, as a result, attract better lovers.

When you know how to pleasure yourself, you can teach your partners how to better pleasure you.

You can use your sexual energy to charge up your health, creativity, career, relationships and spirituality.


Good things come to those who masturbate. As a sexuality coach, masturbation is the core practice that I invite my clients to either begin or explore with a new perspective. And this suggestion applies whether they are in a relationship or not. For some women, it can be challenging at first. It might feel mechanical, superficial or even alien. But after a few days of daily practice, or at most two weeks, they start to feel the positive effects. You can become significantly more orgasmic from this practice alone.

Masturbation is one of the most important sexual activities that you can do. It has an effect on your physical and emotional health, your orgasmic ability, your enjoyment of sex and even how you live your life. If you don’t understand your own sexual pleasure, how can anyone else possibly work it out?

So, as a start, instead of calling your practice masturbation, try to think of it as self-sex, self-love or self-pleasure. Use whatever word resonates with you and excites you. Your masturbation practice and your experience of orgasm can be transformed when you focus on cultivating self-pleasure.Learn about Arginmax at http://sundowndivers.org/arginmax-really-work/

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Orgasmic reminders

There are a few things to remember before beginning your self-pleasure practice. These reminders will help you to experience pleasure and will make it easier for you to orgasm.

First, the most important reminder:

Pleasure = Orgasm.

Remember to recognize every small sensation of pleasure as a mini-orgasm. Gradually, these waves of pleasure will expand into your full orgasmic experience.

Next, let’s cover some approaches that will support your pleasure practice.

Take your time

Allow yourself plenty of time to build your pleasure and experience your orgasm. Some men can come in thirty seconds (and you may have met some that were even faster). But women can sometimes take half an hour to an hour to reach a deep and meaningful orgasmic state. And it’s not just about a single experience; the journey to deeper orgasms can take months or even years.

Take your time and enjoy the orgasmic experience you are having right now, knowing that best is yet to ‘come.’

Create the space

The environment you create for yourself matters. Consider this to be a ritual and create a sacred space accordingly.

Clean and organize the room. Remove any clutter. Place some fresh flowers in the room. Heat or cool the room to a pleasant temperature. Make sure you will not be disturbed and switch off your phone and other devices.

Music, scent, taste and touch sensations such as silk bed sheets or lingerie can arouse you nearly as well as a good lover. Put a sarong or large piece of cloth on the bed. Have some pillows and cushions ready for support. Light some incense and candles. Put on some sensual music. Anything that feels sexy, feminine or arousing for you is perfect.

The main idea is to create the kind of space that feels special and sacred to you. You don’t have to do all of these things every time, but consider trying this for your first conscious self-love practice and from time to time as you feel inspired to. Learn more at http://www.salonesvenecia.com/2016/12/17/well-ill-be-taking-vigrx-pills-all-day/


Touch your whole body

Your whole body is sensitive, pleasurable, erogenous and orgasmic. It’s true that some areas of your body – such as your yoni and your breasts – are more sensitive than other parts. However, all of your body can be sensitive, pleasurable and even orgasmic if you take enough time to explore and extend your attention to other areas. The more you do, the more orgasmic you become.

I’m sure you have experienced a man touching your body too early or focusing too much on your breasts and then your vagina with the aim of getting to penetration and ejaculation. It doesn’t feel very inspiring, does it? Your self-pleasure needs to include your whole body too.

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So where do you touch? Everywhere! Whole-body arousal is what leads to whole-body orgasm. Although it’s good to focus on one area or one kind of touch, it’s also important to bring touch, sensation and pleasure to your entire body. For example, you can explore internal stimulation with one hand and use your other hand to caress, knead, pinch and touch the rest of your body. Allowing your hips to move and undulate also helps to engage your whole body. The more areas you arouse in your body, the more pleasure you will experience.

It’s true that there are women who prefer intense or genital-focused touch without much of a warm-up. Some women can get aroused with hardly any foreplay, love-play, whole-body touch or preparation. But even these women can enjoy and appreciate a more gradual approach and whole-body touch every once in a while as a part of their range.

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Use steady stimulation

Pleasure and orgasm come from steady and consistent stimulation of the same area. One of the reasons that women experience clitoral orgasms (apart from the ultra sensitivity of the clitoris) is that they focus on one spot for a given length of time. One of the reasons women have difficulty experiencing non-clitoral orgasms is that they don’t build their pleasure long enough in one place. I’ve often noticed women begin to experience some pleasure in a part of their body and then suddenly change what they were doing. Maybe they touch another place or move in a different way. The pleasure they were just experiencing decreases and has to be built all over again.

This can happen when you receive touch as well. Assuming your partner touches you in a way that facilitates deep and meaningful pleasure, encourage your lover to focus on one kind of touch for at least a few minutes at a time so that your pleasure has time to build. The same goes for self-pleasure – experiment with different techniques and all kinds of touch for long enough to see if it leads to pleasure. Then when it does, keep doing that for as long as you can. In time, you will develop an intuition for when to focus on one place or technique and when to change frequently in natural flow.

Accumulate your pleasure and embrace the intensity

Your orgasm is an experience of pleasure and energy. The more pleasure you generate and accumulate, the stronger and longer your orgasmic state will be. This is why explosive clitoral orgasms are not serving you– you lose some of your built-up sexual energy. It’s also why it’s good to build the pleasure and energy in one area for a while.

Most women and men release their sexual energy because they don’t know how to handle it. It might feel like it’s ‘too much.’ But allowing yourself to accumulate and contain this intense energy will cause you to experience stronger orgasms with less effort. Accumulating your sexual energy will also help you accumulate and contain energy in your daily life – creative energy, leadership energy, financial energy and spiritual energy.

Orgasm is the accumulation of pleasure, not the release of pleasure.

Learn how to embrace and contain the intensity of your experience. You can explore this intensity with your breath, sounds, movements and touch. The stronger, faster and deeper you are able to breathe, make sounds, move and touch yourself – the stronger, deeper and longer your orgasms can be. Try to relax into the intensity without needing to understand it or control it.

Step into the unknown

Many women stop themselves on the verge of orgasm because they feel they are about to lose control. As if they are about to face something they can’t handle or something unknown. They may fear that they won’t be able to handle the intensity of the pleasure, sensations, energy or emotions. Or they might feel that they are about to faint or lose consciousness. In a personal example, my lover lost control over her body during sex once. And then she couldn’t see anything. She felt like she was choking and thought she was going to die. But after a few moments, she had a huge emotional release and the intensity passed. She didn’t experience this phenomenon anymore and, instead, was able to experience more sexual pleasure.

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When you start your orgasmic explorations, you may experience some weird bodily reactions. For example, your hands may feel charged with energy and electricity or as though you have pins and needles or they might become numb. Sometimes, it can become difficult to control your hands and they might lock in a kind of crab-claw gesture, with your thumb ‘stuck’ to your middle and index fingers. Your arm muscles might also tense and lock causing your elbow joint to close, with the palms close to the shoulders. A friend of mine that has experienced this calls it the ‘T-Rex.’ This condition is actually called ‘Tetni’ and it is caused by energy moving through your body and hitting resistance or blockages.

When your body is overwhelmed with energy, it tenses up. Tetni is also related to energy rising to the level of your heart chakra, and some consider it an expression of Kundalini energy. You may experience your mouth and face going numb or tingling. And in extreme cases, your whole body might become numb or you might feel extremely disorientated and like you’re about to faint.

The important thing to do, as always, is to relax. Don’t try to resist, fight or understand these symptoms. Simply allow your hands to go numb or lock or whatever phenomenon you are experiencing. Keep breathing and making sounds and just allow your body to move as it wants to. I assure you that once you relax, these conditions will pass and as you continue on your sexual journey, you will likely experience less and less of them.

It’s okay to feel some fear, anxiety or confusion about what’s happening to you and about what might happen if you step beyond a certain threshold. What’s beyond that threshold might be emotions or memories that you have suppressed for years. Going there might bring on a strong emotional release or an orgasm that transports you beyond yourself. So I invite you to accept and embrace any fear you might feel and allow yourself to step into that unknown place.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Understand that orgasm can come in moments of grief as well as in moments of elation. It’s natural to think about orgasm as something related to joy, happiness and relaxation. However, for some women, orgasm comes in times of deep grief, suffering and challenge. I know a woman who liked and enjoyed sex, but never experienced orgasm until her sister was on her deathbed. She had sex that night in a state of total grief, knowing that her beloved sister was about to die. And she experienced her first orgasm that night. The grief and frustration somehow helped her to surrender and let go. The intensity of the feelings she allowed herself to embrace turned into orgasm.

Remember that emotion is energy. And any strong emotion can be transformed into orgasm.

It’s time to practice

Knowledge might be power, but you’re not here just to read about orgasms, are you? You need to put the information into practice if you intend to increase your orgasmic power.

The practices I share with you are like building blocks that you can use by yourself, with your current or future partner and even in non-sexual situations. They will have a profound effect on your health and wellbeing, not to mention the depth of your orgasmic ability.

Remember, female arousal takes time to build into orgasm, so stay present with the pleasure. Also be aware that you might need to find the right touch at the right place at the right time.
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While anal sex has increased in cultural popularity and prominence, it still carries some significant stigmas and challenges.

Whether you masturbate regularly or not, try to regard this practice as a self-pleasuring ritual.

Self-reflection: How do you usually pleasure yourself? What do you do to intensify your pleasure?

Here are a few things you can try when you touch yourself:

Relax and let go – one of the most powerful attitudes for your orgasmic experience.

Build intensity gradually – from light touch to strong touch.

Gradually deepen your touch – from the surface of your skin to grabbing flesh and feeling your bones underneath the flesh.

Move from the outside in – from the edges of the body (your hands, head and feet) across your body (your thighs, chest and belly) and finally toward your center (your yoni).

From external to internal – from the external surfaces of your yoni to the depths internally.

I recommend dedicating at least one hour when you are alone and won’t be interrupted. If you share a house with other people and are self-conscious, you can try to find a time when they are out. I recommend not using a vibrator because these create unnatural stimulation that no human being can create. Also, be sure to switch off all of your gadgets – phone, iPad, laptop, and so on.

When you are ready, begin your ritual:

1. Set up a ‘love nest’ in your bedroom. Prepare the space as we discussed previously in a way that feels special or sacred to you.

2. Prepare yourself for your pleasure. Take a long, hot bath or at least a nice, long shower. You might like to use scented oils or salts.

3. Lie on your bed and smear yourself with some good massage oil. I recommend coconut, almond, avocado, grape-seed or another quality oil. It should be cold-pressed and edible since your body will absorb the oil through your skin. Learn about Magna RX at Exteen.com

4. Start touching yourself. Bring awareness, touch and sensation to your entire body. Focus on your thighs, buttocks, belly, chest, breasts, hands, arms, neck and scalp before you touch your yoni. It’s important to activate your entire body so your sexual energy doesn’t stay confined to your genital area.

5. Build your arousal and pleasure gradually. If you aren’t feeling aroused, continue to caress your body and massage your yoni. Focus on the sensations. Be aware of any small wave of pleasure. Make sure you breathe fully in and out of your belly. Explore making sounds. Explore moving your hips back and forth and side to side.

6. Make sure you don’t just focus on your clit. Try not to have a clitoral orgasm, as that might deplete your energy and cause you to stop wanting more pleasure.

7. When you feel ready, start experimenting with internal stimulation using your fingers, a dildo or a penis-shaped vegetable. Aim for this to be the majority of your self-pleasuring experience.

8. It’s okay if you experience feelings of fear, anxiety or resistance coming up. These might be emotions and memories that have been suppressed for years. Or it could be the fear of letting go and surrendering into an orgasm deeper than any you have ever experienced. Either keep going or pause to witness your fear. Allow yourself to experience and express it. Then, keep going. Celebrate and enjoy whatever sensations or emotions come up.

9. Relax into your orgasm if it comes – enjoy it and keep going. If it doesn’t, accept the pleasure you did experience as an orgasmic state. The goal isn’t to have an orgasm but to connect with yourself. Have an attitude of curiosity, exploration and discovery.

If you can create a self-pleasuring ritual for yourself as a daily practice, you will notice your body opening and becoming more sensitive, pleasurable and orgasmic. Consider making a commitment to self-pleasure every single day (or at least three times a week) for at least twenty minutes over the next month. Try to make time for an hour-long session once a week.

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Write your very worst-case scenario down in detail. As hard and awful as this might feel, really go into it. Suspend your positive thinking. Assume the worst. Assume every problem and issue you have now will get much worse.

3. Now, notice that some of your worst-case scenario is already somewhat true now. This is proof that your worst-case scenario might actually happen.

4. Allow yourself to feel the pain and suffering associated with this possibility. Feel the pain that you will feel if you actually live your worst-case scenario. What do you feel? How does it feel in your body? Write that in your orgasmic diary.

5. Before you continue to the next practice, take a few minuets to dissolve the strong and heavy energy of the worst-case scenario. Jump and shake for a few minutes. Take a shower. Take a walk outside and get some fresh air.

In order to change, it’s important to start recognizing how your past thinking and actions have affected you and could continue to worsen if you do nothing about them. Allow yourself to feel the pain that your limiting beliefs have caused you. This will make it easier for you to take action and change your ways where it will serve you better to do so.

Embodiment practice - Creating the best-case scenario

Now that you have explored the worst things that could happen and felt the pain of this, let’s have a look at the other side of the coin – the best things that could happen if you are prepared to take action.

Now is the time for some positive visualization!

1. In ten years time, what will your life look like if you are able to change your limiting beliefs and unhelpful tendencies? What will happen when you solve your problems or overcome your challenges? Positive thinking time! Don’t limit the possibilities here. Allow yourself to create the ideal best-case scenario for your life. Allow yourself to wish for the best for yourself. Go for it!

2. How will the very-best-case scenario affect your relationship, family life, happiness, fulfillment, health, studies, career, creativity, friendships, personal and spiritual growth?

3. Close your eyes and take time to build a scenario. See a clear picture of the best future that you could possibly have. Then open your eyes and write it down in detail. Learn more at http://www.fabiocoronas.com/older-women-worry-iess-about-their-bodies-than-younger-girls-do/

4. Notice how you are feeling about this possible future. Allow yourself to express your feelings through your face and body. Throw your hands in the air and shout, ‘YES! I deserve to live the best life!’

5. Now, on a scale of one to ten (with ten being the most committed), how committed are you to making some changes? How inspired are you to make sure you don’t end up in the worst-case scenario and, instead, manifest or even exceed your best-case scenario?

If you aren’t feeling committed to change at the end of this practice, maybe you are not fully aware of the effects that your sexuality has on your whole life. Perhaps you think you don’t have the time, ability, resources or support to be able to change. It’s hard to feel committed to something that you regard as impossible.

This practice assumes that everything is possible – and freeing yourself of limitations is what actually opens up all of these possibilities. I’ve seen women with horrible histories of abuse who have managed to transform their lives and become more feminine, sexual and orgasmic. They have been able to begin having fun sexually as well as develop meaningful relationships with strong, conscious men. This is possible for you too. If you still don’t feel totally committed to do everything you can to create the necessary changes in your life, may I suggest that you re-do the worst case scenario practice and this time really allow yourself to consider the worst, then re-do the best case scenario practice and allow yourself to specify what is it you really yearn for.

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A Note About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Even when you are in a relationship, it’s so important to keep having frequent sex with the most important person in your life – you. It’s not meant to replace the natural human connection that we deeply yearn for with another person – on the sexual, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. However, you need to build this connection with yourself in order to experience it fully with others, and one way to do that is by having sex with yourself in the same way that you would like your partner to have sex with you.

The self-pleasure tapas

When you commit to do something every day, that thing is given importance and meaning. Daily self-pleasure is one of the most important practices that I guide my clients to embrace. Many women who have set aside enough time for this and have completed this self-pleasure challenge have experienced huge shifts and transformations in their sexuality, their orgasmic experience, their self-confidence and their feelings of femininity. Learn more at http://www.telenovelasxd.com/talking-with-his-hands/


The Tantrics call a daily practice like this ‘tapas’ and include it as one of the ten spiritual precepts known as the Yamas and Niyamas. These are kind of like the ten commandments of yoga. Some people translate tapas as ‘austerity’ but it actually means commitment or determination. Taking a tapas means you make a commitment to do a particular kind of spiritual practice for a certain time period. For example, meditating for half an hour every morning, practicing yoga every day, giving money to charity or avoiding particular foods, like meat. Taking a tapas is the ancient way of creating new and empowering habits.

You can take a tapas for any length of time, but thirty days is considered the minimum length you need to feel the effects of your practice and to adopt the new habit. So, I invite you to take a thirty-day tapas. Will you make a commitment to practice self-pleasure for at least twenty minutes every day for one month? Let twenty minutes be your minimum. The reason I’ve set it this low is so you will still be able to do it even on days when you’re busy, tired, stressed or not in the mood. Where possible, it is far more powerful to aim for thirty to forty-five minutes.

Does this sound like too much? Think of it like this: If you had an amazing lover who made you feel fully orgasmic, would you have sex with him every day for half an hour? I think you might be inspired to! So I invite you to discover your own inner lover and make love with her every day for the same reason.

During your tapas, you can enjoy clitoral stimulation, but it’s crucial that you avoid clitoral orgasms. You want to avoid losing your sexual energy and also experiencing that quick release. Instead, let your tapas be about honoring and connecting to your body and yourself. Even if you already experience internal peak orgasms, such as a G-spot orgasm, I suggest during this month you use the ‘edging’ technique to stop before any kind of orgasmic peak. You will notice that when you do this, your whole day will become orgasmic. And I don’t mean this in a poetic way. You will actually experience pleasure sensations throughout your day.

Your practice should be a self-pleasure ritual as we have previously discussed. Avoid mechanical motions and, instead, create a practice of exploring, loving and connecting to your yoni, your sexuality and your femininity. It’s important that you try to include internal stimulation because there is meaning and importance behind this during your tapas (we’ll look at the importance of this soon).

And if you aren’t ready for internal stimulation on a particular day, then pleasure yourself externally. If you don’t even feel like doing that, that’s okay too. Use your practice time to simply put one hand on your yoni and another hand on your breast or heart chakra. Be gentle with yourself.
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Oral Sex and Power Play

Write your very worst-case scenario down in detail. As hard and awful as this might feel, really go into it. Suspend your positive thinking. Assume the worst. Assume every problem and issue you have now will get much worse.

3. Now, notice that some of your worst-case scenario is already somewhat true now. This is proof that your worst-case scenario might actually happen.

4. Allow yourself to feel the pain and suffering associated with this possibility. Feel the pain that you will feel if you actually live your worst-case scenario. What do you feel? How does it feel in your body? Write that in your orgasmic diary.

5. Before you continue to the next practice, take a few minuets to dissolve the strong and heavy energy of the worst-case scenario. Jump and shake for a few minutes. Take a shower. Take a walk outside and get some fresh air.

In order to change, it’s important to start recognizing how your past thinking and actions have affected you and could continue to worsen if you do nothing about them. Allow yourself to feel the pain that your limiting beliefs have caused you. This will make it easier for you to take action and change your ways where it will serve you better to do so.

Embodiment practice - Creating the best-case scenario

Now that you have explored the worst things that could happen and felt the pain of this, let’s have a look at the other side of the coin – the best things that could happen if you are prepared to take action.

Now is the time for some positive visualization!

1. In ten years time, what will your life look like if you are able to change your limiting beliefs and unhelpful tendencies? What will happen when you solve your problems or overcome your challenges? Positive thinking time! Don’t limit the possibilities here. Allow yourself to create the ideal best-case scenario for your life. Allow yourself to wish for the best for yourself. Go for it!

2. How will the very-best-case scenario affect your relationship, family life, happiness, fulfillment, health, studies, career, creativity, friendships, personal and spiritual growth?

3. Close your eyes and take time to build a scenario. See a clear picture of the best future that you could possibly have. Then open your eyes and write it down in detail.

4. Notice how you are feeling about this possible future. Allow yourself to express your feelings through your face and body. Throw your hands in the air and shout, ‘YES! I deserve to live the best life!’

5. Now, on a scale of one to ten (with ten being the most committed), how committed are you to making some changes? How inspired are you to make sure you don’t end up in the worst-case scenario and, instead, manifest or even exceed your best-case scenario?

If you aren’t feeling committed to change at the end of this practice, maybe you are not fully aware of the effects that your sexuality has on your whole life. Perhaps you think you don’t have the time, ability, resources or support to be able to change. It’s hard to feel committed to something that you regard as impossible.

This practice assumes that everything is possible – and freeing yourself of limitations is what actually opens up all of these possibilities. I’ve seen women with horrible histories of abuse who have managed to transform their lives and become more feminine, sexual and orgasmic. They have been able to begin having fun sexually as well as develop meaningful relationships with strong, conscious men. This is possible for you too. If you still don’t feel totally committed to do everything you can to create the necessary changes in your life, may I suggest that you re-do the worst case scenario practice and this time really allow yourself to consider the worst, then re-do the best case scenario practice and allow yourself to specify what is it you really yearn for.

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Yin and Yang in the Bedroom with Arize

The beliefs you identified in the previous practice may have served you in some superficial way in the past (remember, secondary gains). Maybe they gave you an excuse not to be vulnerable, not to face things that you haven’t dealt with or not to express emotions you’ve suppressed. So what you want to do instead is find empowering and sustainable ways to fulfill your needs.

But there is a part of you that holds on to the ‘story’ and, therefore, sabotages your happiness and growth. Author Steven Pressfield calls this ‘the resistance.’ So let’s work with your resistance for a moment.

1. Become aware of your resistance towards trying something, doing something or sharing something. Be aware of the voice in your head that might tell you, ‘I don’t want to masturbate’ or ‘I don’t want to go out and meet people’ or ‘I don’t want to make love with my partner.’

2. Notice how this resistance can stop you from being who you really are. Do you sometimes know what you need to do but don’t do it? Do you sometimes do something you know is not good for you?

3. The resistance is afraid of change. The resistance tries to keep you small and disempowered so you don’t have to deal with stepping into your greatness. Identify the resistance as something which isn’t you, isn’t the real you. Dis-identify with the resistance and it will be easier not to listen to it. Instead of running away to food, Facebook, work, television, sleep or even friends – stay with the resistance without fighting it.

4. Then, allow yourself to take small steps, even tiny steps, towards the thing that you are resisting. If the resistance is telling you not to masturbate, put your hand on your yoni for a few minutes. If the resistance is telling you that you need to eat that cake to feel good, wait a few minutes before eating it.

5. Learn to recognize resistance again and again, whenever you notice your mind affirming your limiting beliefs. Don’t fight your mind, just recognize the beliefs as illusions and take steps towards challenging them. Although this might seem like an exercise of the mind, notice what emotions and even bodily responses it brings up within you.

6. Find one action you can take today to demonstrate you are ready for a new belief.

The resistance is what’s stopping you from being your full, orgasmic and happy self. So make a commitment to notice the stories and face the resistance – it will enable you to fully become your true self!

Embodiment practice – What’s the worst-case scenario?

Issues or challenges that you don’t deal with can become worse as time goes by, and they might start to affect other areas of your life too. Most people use positive thinking to shield themselves from the pain and the severity of a challenging situation. However, this is a delusion and an escape mechanism. To develop a strong impetus to change, you need to be aware of the pain that staying the same will bring. This also allows you to visualize the immense pleasure that taking action and changing your ways may result in.  Learn about Semenax at http://baids.org  Learn about Arize male enhancement pills.
Think about the stories and tendencies that you recognized earlier. How have they affected your life? How have they affected your sex life and your orgasmic experience? How have they affected your current relationship, your family life, health, wealth, friendships and fulfillment in life? How have they stopped you from doing what you want and love?

We are going to explore the worst-case scenario in this practice and then explore the best-case scenario.

1. In ten years, what will your life look like if your problems and beliefs stay the same or get worse? This is not the time for positive thinking or optimism. You really need to have a glimpse of how bad things could get. Assume the worst.

2. How will your sexual issues affect your relationship, family life, happiness, fulfillment, health, studies, career, creativity, friendships, personal and spiritual growth?

How will you look and feel?

Will you have a partner? What kind of a man will he be? What will your relationship be like? Will you have kids? What will your relationship with your kids look life?

What will you be doing as a career and how will you feel in your job or business? Will you be financially independent? What kind of house will you be living in?

What will you be doing in your free time? Who will your friends be? What would they say about you?

What will your health be like?



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Once women are exposed to more knowledge about what’s possible and fully understand how their sexuality affects all areas of life, they often decide to focus on their sexuality a bit more. And once they experiment with some of the practices in this book, they start to experience the benefits for themselves. This is why it’s important to let go of anything that is limiting your experience of orgasm. Some limiting beliefs include:

‘I’ll never orgasm.’

‘I can’t orgasm because I’ve been abused.’

‘Internal orgasms do not exist.’

‘I’m not meant to orgasm.’

‘I can’t orgasm because I’ve had a hysterectomy.’

‘I can’t orgasm because my partner’s penis is too short or because he comes too quickly.’

‘I don’t orgasm because I’m not _______ enough or because I don’t have _______.’

‘I can’t orgasm because that thing happened or didn’t happen or because of my partner/kids/work/mother.’

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Letting go of limitations

In this part of the book, we will explore the limitations that can affect your ability to orgasm. These limitations are often related to your personal history, upbringing, beliefs and current tendencies. These limitations affect not only your orgasmic capacity, but also other aspects of your life.

If you experience a limited orgasmic ability because of sexual trauma, you will want to seek additional support. There are many professionals who can help you, including myself. While this book intends to optimize your orgasmic experience by yourself, there are some things that are beyond its scope. It can still be a valuable first step, however.

At times it might not be easy. Stuff will come up. You might get frustrated because you’re not getting the results you expected or getting them as quickly as you wanted to. Let go of these expectations and keep going with your practice. Rest assured that if you persist, you will reap the orgasmic rewards.

And there are more ways to deal with the challenges and limitations that affect your ability to orgasm. Read on to discover how.

The Power of Vigrx Plus

Vigrx Plus is a powerful male supplement for men. We had a very primitive understanding of when we first discovered male enhancement supplements, which are—believe me—they're brilliant tools. I mean, again, this allowing this personal anecdote if it weren't for antibiotics, my mother would have died at twenty-four when she was taking what were experimental drugs. And I wouldn't have been born. So they're fabulous for certain life-threatening things.

Be Careful With Herbal Supplements

But because they've been so abused they've also contributed to the ill-health of untold millions because they're given so often. And as you say there's this huge under appreciation of all of the good guy bacteria in the gut and how that gets wiped out. And how that can cause problems for years. So we are starting to learning that we do have this symbiotic relationship with the bugs around us.

And that's also interesting the whole hygiene hypothesis saying that kids who play around in dirt a little bit more are less atopic. They don't have a lot of the allergies that their very hygienic friends do. So there's that. It's application in all sorts of things from vaccination to when do we wipe this stuff out? And looking at new kinds of ways because we're about to face an antibiotic crisis, new kinds of ways to kill important bugs. We've just done a really interesting story for

What Doctors Don't Tell You About Male-Enhancement

About a woman who—and there's a number of cases of this—a woman who just used essential oils to cure her husband's MRSA when the doctors just couldn't do anything more for them. It wasn't like they avoided medicine. They were very skeptical of using these oils. But they had nothing else. And it cured it in two weeks. So there's so much we can learn about how to deal with bugs, how other things that do kill bugs, and the substances in nature or the other kinds of medicines that we can employ, and when it's important not to kill these bugs. So I think that is a really important element. J ames: Given how important the bugs are in all areas of medicine…On Sunday we've got the doctors conference and we're looking at the gut. This weekend is the release of the first medical journal on the gut-brain connection. There's so much science coming out that it's happening and this weekend it comes up. And Dr. Perlmutter will be speaking about that on Sunday because he's the editor of that journal. On Sunday we're going to look at immunology, autoimmunity, psychiatry, all of these areas that are affected, even endocrinology by microbes.

The Power of Vigrx Plus

It seems to me likely that part of the mechanism of the placebo effect and also these mind/body techniques might be sort of like a deeper level connection with these male enhancement supplements because it's also being shown that we can make big changes in our microbial composition and effectiveness in a very short period of time. So people have always wondered, “Well, look, what is the mechanism by which people have a spontaneous remission or otherwise like that. And it seems like there's at least potential that the microbes doing the job of either reducing inflammation or increasing it or otherwise could be a part of that mechanism.It could be. And I'd like to stress part of that mechanism because when I think of healing of any sort, there is an enormous change. Learn more about Vigrx Plus at http://thongchaimedical.org/among-the-most-popular-of-male-enhancement-products/ and http://infospeak.org/vigrx-plus-ingreidents/

Think of a movie. Think of the midpoint of any movie. And most movies are written in a very formulaic way. And the midpoint is the sudden giant realization of something. In a way the body has that, too. When there's a healing, many things start changing. So that's why I like to stress the holistic model that the patient, you have to look at it in totality. And then with making certain shifts, the bugs don't just do the job. The patient's emotions and belief system does the job. Plus his dietary changes do the job. Plus maybe his libido exercise. And then there's also maybe some substances of some way that are helping him overcome that—whether it's homeopathy or a drug—are helping him overcome that illness. All of that seems to work in concert. J ames: Yeah, I know exactly. Well, I really appreciate all of the information that you shared. I think The Field and The Bond are great books for people to start with to learn about male enhancement drugs. 


Saturday, October 29, 2016

I had way more sexual energy

As a boy and young man, I had way more sexual energy than I knew what to do with. I had endless crushes on girls and masturbated three times a day. Eventually I realized that all my obsessing about sex wasn’t enhancing my life. I wanted to control this incredibly strong urge instead of having it control me and so I started exploring various spiritual practices, including kundalini yoga.

Eventually my path brought me to a Daoist, Mantak Chia. As a young man, he had been told that his sexual energy was exhausted and he would die if he didn’t do something about it. He learned non-ejaculatory orgasm as a way to heal himself. Thus, we had different but parallel paths. His sexual energy was depleted and mine was excessive, but we both had a sexual energy problem, and we both healed ourselves by practicing non-ejaculatory orgasm.

We were men on a non-emission.

Mantak Chia’s English wasn’t good. I ended up writing his first seven books. Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy sold hundreds of thousands of copies and propelled him to fame.

I’ve evolved my teaching of non-ejaculatory orgasm beyond what Mantak taught me, as I found Westerners need to do important emotional clearing work to be truly successful in the practice. My preferred methods involve the Six Healing Sounds and emotional alchemy, known to Daoists as Fusion of the Five Elements. The Healing Sounds use acupuncture channels with sound and arm movements to release trapped emotional energy in our vital organs that can block the flow of sexual energy. (I discuss Fusion of the Five Elements below.)

When we practice non-ejaculatory orgasm, we’re practicing energy manage­ment. Not energy as in petroleum or electricity, but energy as in the mysterious, ineffable force that underlies everything and moves through us all. Learn about Semenax at http://increase-sperm.org/semenax/ and http://alphaguys.weebly.com

The Chinese focus on energy first and matter second. The Chinese word for energy is chi (also spelled qi, both pronounced chee). This chi flow, or life force, is the root of what make us feel alive. It’s totally embedded in the Chinese language. A friend of mine counted 647 words in his Chinese dictionary that integrate the character for chi. The word for garlic translates as ‘hot chi.’ The word for weather is ‘atmospheric chi.’

In Western culture, we pay much less attention to energy. We’re more focused on the level that vibrates more slowly—the physical body. But it’s energy that creates the body, and it’s energy that makes a body feel well or ill, sexy or ugly and unloved.

In the Daoist view, there’s nothing esoteric or mystical about chi. It’s understood for what it is, as what precedes and underlies all manifestations into form. Everything that exists, from rocks to people to planets, is vibrating with energy.

There’s chi in our thoughts, feelings and perceptions as well as in our physical selves. Someone insults us and we feel angry. Anger has its own unique quality of energy—we all know what it feels like. When we do a practice like qigong or tai chi, we’re working with the energy that underlies those thoughts, feelings and perceptions. We’re creating the possibility of rewriting our habitual scripts. We’re tinkering with our energetic DNA. Daoist methods of energy management can help us transmute this anger into compassion and love.

. . . And It’s About Sex

For Daoists, everything is sexual. I don’t mean this in the Western sense of being randy. The Daoist view of sex is premised in observation, not arousal. They observe nature and see a profoundly sexual process, with the entire universe emerging out of a marriage between the male principle, yang, and the female principle, yin.

The Daoist view is that the entire universe is in a constant state of sexual procreation. Behind the world of visible form, there is a formless world. Formless energies are polarized into male (yang) and female (yin) aspects, and it is their sexual commingling that creates the world of form. Light and shadow, solar and lunar, penetrating and receptive—these are some of the polarities that shape the world.

Imagine a baby before it’s born. It’s pure potential; it doesn’t exist yet. It takes a male sperm and a female egg to turn that potential into something physical. Everything in the universe is created the same way. Masculine and feminine transform the formless into form.

Our cells are always reproducing themselves—this is sexual. Our yin and yang aspects are constantly interacting on physical-sexual, emotional, mental, and spiritual levels. And just like the cosmos itself, we humans are constantly performing the sexual act of transmuting spirit into body, the formless into form.

In the Daoist view, we have an energy portal where this happens. Think of it as a Star Trek portal with a vapor lock in the middle. One door—the mingmen, or ‘gate of destiny’—is located between the two kidneys, at the level of our navel. The chi in the mingmen is formless, waiting to be born as both our body and our destiny. The other door is the dantian (“elixir field”). It’s located in the exact same space as the mingmen, only it holds the slower vibration of our physical essence.

The formless spiritual chi comes into the mingmen, where it becomes sexually polarized into the two forces of yin and yang. It then passes into the dantian and from there it creates your body through a network of acupuncture meridians. This is the energy that fuels you as you go through your life. It’s also the energy we work with when practicing non-ejaculatory orgasm.

All creation is sexual, and that sexual polarity is what connects us to everyone and everything.

Communicating Your Sexual Fantasies

If you’re going to take more than a few moments to do this, it’s best to take a break from your expanded orgasm session. It’ll take you too far away from the mood and sensations of the moment. I recommend this if your challenges are making you feel really stuck: Agree to a break, do the red dot exercise, then come back to having fun.

You can also do a short-form version of the exercise. Simply see your messy thoughts, bundle them into the red dot, and let the dot either integrate with the rest of you, or vanish ‘off site.’ The short form exercise can be done in seconds— and thus inside a date—without taking focus away from the experience you are sharing or requiring a break. People usually have more success with the short form if they’ve familiarized themselves with the process first.

In the abstract, this may sound silly. In my experience, it’s effective, though— and you can always customize it to make it work better for you. Don’t like the red dot? Try a cloud of energy-droplets seeking to dissolve. Will they immerse into nothingness inside you—or float away? Use whatever works best for you.

There’s a larger point here. Expanded orgasm isn’t only an amazing journey into pleasure. It’s also a spiritual practice in the same sense that meditation, yoga and tai chi are spiritual practices. During expanded orgasm sessions, both the giver and receiver learn to be more present and more focused. We learn to be kinder and more compassionate, both to ourselves and to our partner. As the receiver, we learn to go into the Bliss that awaits us beyond our egos—the same Bliss I discovered during my near-death experience. Learn more at http://ceicom.org/why-use-a-penis-extender/ and http://astrobiosociety.org/sizegenetics-right-extender/

In short, expanded orgasm is a wonderful way to become a better and happier person.

And to do so while having orgasms. Lots and lots of orgasms.

Now what could be better than that? Communicating Your Erotic Fantasies

As we’ve seen, sharing our fantasies can be pretty scary, especially if they’re not of the plain-vanilla, socially-accepted variety. Yet you’ve got to take the plunge if you want to share those fantasies with a sexual partner. The best outcome, of course, is to get an enthusiastically positive response from your partner so that you end up incorporating these fantasies into your shared sex play, whether through role play (“This time, you be the Martian!”) or narration (“And then the three guys tied me up ...”). While you can’t count on that happening if you do share, you can be sure it won’t happen if you don’t.

I recommend approaching this difficult subject gently and indirectly. Don’t bring it up while sharing a romantic candlelight dinner and don’t bring it up while naked, either. Broadly stated, you’ll get one of three responses: Enthusiastic support and approval, rejection and disapproval, or—and this one happens frequently!—an awkward silence. Learning that your partner has a wild and bizarre fantasy can be a lot to take in. You can sometimes get a long silence as the person tries to absorb this new information. Unfortunately, that silence is open to a lot of interpretations, including “Oh my God, he (or she) is trying to figure out how to not tell me how disgusting I am!” All in all, it’s best to avoid situations that lend themselves to eye-to­eye discomfort. Structure the setting so your partner can have their reaction without feeling the need to respond to you right away.

One way to do this is by sharing your fantasy during a car ride, which is one of those situations where you can’t spend extended amounts of time gazing into each other’s eyes, unless you want to end up in a ditch. Let’s say your partner is driving and you start chatting about something you saw on TV, or some celebrity who you heard is into something kinky, and then you drop a line into the conversation like, “I’ve been thinking about that activity and it sounds kind of intriguing. What do you think about that?” And then you look out the window, and your partner continues to drive, and eventually he or she will respond. Or not.


Riding in a car isn’t your only option. You can also do it while you’re working alongside each other, maybe while doing the dishes or weeding the garden. Whatever the specifics, the general principle remains the same. Broach the subject gently. Make it easy for it not to get heavy quickly. Set it up so there’s not a big charge attached to it.